My name is Anne Cohen and I believe that dealing with rejection is something that everyone hates. Nothing is worse than when you get that pit in your stomach kind of feeling, and you know what’s coming next. When you develop feelings for someone, nothing hurts worse than when those feelings are one-sided. This is why it’s important that when you date someone, you ask a lot of questions and get to know the person very quickly, and within a short period of time. I already wrote an article explaining how there’s a three date rule, or at least there should be. I truly believe that it takes no more than three dates to ask all of those early dating questions and get a feel for if you have chemistry with the other person. People should never string others along. When they’re not interested, they should let you know sooner, rather than later. Don’t waste anyone’s time and delay telling a person you’re not interested.
People should go into dating someone with an open heart, but with caution. Don’t be scared of getting hurt, because you’ll never fall in love that way. Make sure you’re always on the same page as the other person. Falling in love is something that takes time, when it’s real. If you think you can fall in love right off the bat within a few dates, you’re mistaking love for lust. Someone asked me earlier today, “Why do women tell guys that they’re nice and have a beautiful heart, but…?” Well, I’m hoping that person found out sooner, rather than later and didn’t waste a lot of time with that person. Hopefully no real feelings had developed, they weren’t hurt, and they can move on quickly. My suggestion would be, don’t waste your time wondering why girls aren’t interested or try to read into their reason too much. That will only leave you more hurt, flustered, and agitated. Try to move on and find someone better suited for you that will reciprocate the feelings you feel for them.
When anyone breaks up with anyone or decides they don’t want to see them again, they have to give them a reason why. Well, they don’t have to give them a reason, but they should! As far as I can tell, telling a guy that he’s nice and has a big heart, but you don’t want to see him again, simply says that you’re not interested, and it’s just a reason. It’s as simple as that. I wouldn’t read too much into it any further. No one likes to hear that three letter word, “BUT.” Whenever there is a, “but” you know what’s coming next! We all have to deal with rejection, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Being rejected by somebody, just makes more room for the right person to come into your life. I would suggest trying to get over that situation by realizing that, and open your heart up again, so that you can be addicted
to finding your true love.