Breaking up

How to get over someone you loved madly

I think that every girl had this situation in her life: she had to get over a guy for who she believed she would never get over! It is a hopeless situation at a first glance: you are almost addicted to that guy, you smile when you receive his message even after so much time has passed and you still cannot say “no” when he asks you for a favor or invite you for a coffee. You’ve been “on” and “off” with this guy for a long time, but now you feel that you need to end this relationship.

We all had this love at least once in our lives, the love to which we cannot say no. But what you should do if you know that that guy is bad news for you or this relationship just keeps bringing you down? It’s time to move on! Seriously! I know that deep down inside, your heart is winning, but you have to realize it’s the best for you!

Sometimes you must decide what is best for you and use your brain and common sense and put an end to a toxic relationship. So, here are the tips how to get over someone you think you’ll never get over:

Tips to get over someone to whom you cannot say “no”


1. Think of the reasons why you want to do it

This is really important! Take your emotions aside and ask yourself honestly: “Is this relationship good for me? Does this guy treat me like it supposed to treat me, with love and respect? Does this relationship have a future?”

If you are in a relationship where you know you are going nowhere or the guy just treats you with less respect, you must decide for your own good to move on. Relying on your common sense is crucial here, since your heart and your emotions will certainly pull you back to the same spot!

Of course, he would try to win you back probably, but if you really decided that it’s not a healthy relationship, the best thing to do is to end it.


2. Stick to your decision

This step requires much more effort and will! The most important thing is to break any contact with this guy. I know that it sounds harsh, but it is absolutely necessary! You must leave your past in the past! Otherwise, you will be constantly reminded that he is there and you will have constant dilemmas whether you did the right thing, maybe you still have a future, maybe he will change… No! That’s the worst scenario that can possibly happen where you will be torn apart between your wishes and the reality. And the reality is: he will never change! You should always remind yourself of the reason that made you end up that relationship in the first place!


3. Let the time heal you

It’s true, time heals everything! But this is possible only if you do the step two. You will notice that you will think less and less of him as the time goes by! That is why it is absolutely important that you don’t answer the calls and end the relationship for real! The time will help you understand many things, because it will clear your thoughts and once your emotions are not involved anymore you will be able to see things just the way they are!

And the chances are that the picture is not going to be nice! After all, there is a big reason why you had to get out of that relationship. Don’t be harsh on yourself! It is difficult when you are so madly in love that you just cannot say “no”. Think of that as an important lesson in your life and move on!

And don’t be fooled by your own belief that you will not love anymore! Of course you will! Life is a miracle and you will again feel that wonderful feeling! It will just take time for your heart to heal and to be able to open again! Meanwhile, you should focus on yourself, devote time to things that matter to you and enjoy life!

If you are in this situation right now, we wish you the best luck! Everything is going to be ok! It always does!